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  • Two Extremes

    I'm going to be speaking here from a Mom's point of view, because currently that is the view I have everyday, but I think this could apply elsewhere also. 

    I feel inundated with 2 extremes when I think about perfecting my parenting. I see both of these extremes in social media, blogs, and magazines.

    One extreme says, I'm going to be my very best and that means:

    -making the best, most beautiful and nutritious meals

    -having my kids dressed perfectly adorably, no stains on anything

    -my house is perfectly picked up

    -I'm involved in something all the time

    -I Pinterest everything, perfectly, all the time

    -I can take a cart through the bicycle aisle in Target with my kids without knocking down all the bikes

    - all of this is accomplished with washed hair, clean clothes, and a smile

    The other extreme says, I'm mediocre and happy in my mediocrity. You have seen this too, right? Parents say things like...

    -my house is a mess

    -my kids are a mess

    -my clothes are a mess

    -I'm late to everything

    -but we're happy in our mediocrity

    I GET this! Truly, I do. It's too much pressure to be perfect. WAY too much pressure. This is rooted in a desire to do a job well but knowing perfection is impossible.

    But can't I strive to be the best I can possibly be AND do it without all the pressure of perfection? Or maybe can we rewrite what "the best" looks like?

    I'm not sure completely how it's done but I have to believe it's possible, because I'm not content with mediocrity but I also can't be the list of perfect above. 

    If you've spent any time with me at all since bringing our second child home you'll see it's hard for me to go into public and look graceful. My house IS a mess. My meals are thrown together. My priority for laundry is having clean diapers. And sometimes I forget when I last bathed my children. I believe God has given me a job to do, and I don't want to do it with less than my whole self. But maybe the list of what makes for exceptional parents needs some reworking. Maybe we need to give ourselves a little more credit than calling "less than perfection" mediocrity. And maybe we all could use a little more grace for ourselves and for those around us all doing the best we can to be the best parents we can be.